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Anyone who's been reading my blogs over the past months have known there is a lot of change going on in my life, some for the better, some for the worse.

I have lived my whole life trying to please others; my parents, grandparents, roommates, girlfriends, and the Ex. It's really hard for me to think of one decision in my life where I haven't considered "What are my parents going to think?" "What's Theresa gonna say about this?"
Most of my wedding, from the Church to the Guest List, was given to me as an ultimatum: "If you don't get married in the Catholic Church, you're grandparents will disown you."

Now I've made a decision thinking only of me. Going to Second City has been a godsend for me. It has given me the opportunity to open up and be me. It's almost like group therapy in the way that most of the class came in with that "it's now or never" mentality and we all want to reach a goal together.

It has given me a happiness that I haven't had since before I was a teenager. It makes me want to give up the "Safe" things in life- my home & my job- so I can pursue this fully. I've put my house on the market and have been looking at Condo's in the City. I've been throwing away furniture and things that remind me of the past. My brother and I are selling off our 20 year collection of Baseball cards. And I'm really considering giving up on Portillo's to take a job as a doorman at a bar Brian works at.

I've found something that I believe I'm good at and that makes me happy and I want to pursue it fully, but I keep hearing family in my ear saying "there's no security in that life" and my father saying "you can't live without Health Insurance" and my grandmother saying "You just need to find a good woman and settle down and have children."

I just turned 32 last week and for the first time in almost 2 decades, I can smile without being on antidepressants. Now the only question is, do I continue goin the safe route and make everyone around me happy, or do I go out on a limb and make myself happy?